Letters To and From Spirit

On feeling cringey

Aug 17, 2023

To Spirit:


Please help me. I notice sometimes I cringe at the actions of myself or others. It’s as if sometimes I get so uncomfortable and embarrassed for others, and for what I’m guessing they must be feeling. I’m noticing this cringey feeling in me now, and I recognize it must be evidence of a judgment I hold. I’d like to look at this with you so I can repurpose this feeling. I do not deny the experience but I’d like to remember I’m not really upset for the reason I think. Please help me to see this as you would have me. Please help me to bring the dark to the light.

Spirit, please help me.

From Spirit:

Beloved Child of God,

Your experience of cringing is a sign of a judgment, as you have been able to recognize on your own. This particular type of judgment may have slipped by without you recognizing it for what it was in the past, but due to your dedication and willingness you now notice these more subtle disturbances of peace. You’ve done well to remember that there is no order of difficulty in miracles, and that this too shows you evidence of some darkness that is ready to be brought to the light.

The experience of feeling cringey is a result of you believing you know what is right. Your vicarious embarrassment and discomfort can only come from a place of judgment and false belief. Who would feel embarrassed if they but remembered the truth? It is clear the interpretation from which this feeling would come.

Remember that you do not know what anything is for. The part of you who cringes is the part who believes it does know what is best. Seeing what it thinks is an embarrassing and uncomfortable error, it demands someone must feel bad. And that someone is you.

Notice how you cringe whether it was “your error” or “the error of an other.” Ego may blame you or may blame others, but either way you end up not feeling at peace.

Let then this feeling of cringe be a signal to you to do your practice. Remember that you can be right or you can be happy, and your feeling cringey is an indicator of which choice you have made. Judge yourself not, but return your mind to me right away.

Together we can laugh away the notion that there is anything at which you need to cringe.

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